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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.

In my defense, I didn't rudely tell them to leave ... But DS was crying, he won't take a bottle, and they're not comfortable when I BF in front of them. So I talked to them for a minute then excused myself to breastfeed. They left shortly afterward.

I definitely want a good relationship with them. They want to be helpful but are very fixed in their schedules. So what's convenient for them doesn't always work for me (e.g., they can only come Mondays at noon, but that's the one day per week that I actually meet with another mom friend), especially when my child refuses a bottle.

Sigh. I'll call MIL tonight and invite her over. [/quote]

OP, I am the PP who posted about the importance of maintaining a good relationship with family because they are usually the ones you can usually count on when the chips are down.

I am glad that you are going to reach out to your in-laws. In the long run - and maybe even in the short run - it will pay off in terms of your relationship with them and your husband.

[b]Don't listen to those who suggest changing the locks or taking away the keys. Unfortunately there are a lot of people with dysfunctional relationships with their in-laws and even their own parents on these forums. They are not the people whose counsel you want to heed. It is obvious they have their own baggage which is surfacing in the advice they are giving you.
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A simple rule to follow in how you deal with in-laws when it comes to issues such as visiting: if you have a good relationship with your own parents how would you deal with them when it comes to handling a visit without notice? If you would let it pass, then do the same with your in-laws. Always keep in mind that although you are obviously closer and more comfortable with your family, your husband parents probably  mean a lot to him. Treat his parents like you would your own. Trust me when I say that in most cases it will pay dividends both in your relationship with them and with your husband.

I wish you well.[/quote]

Whether it is their inlaws, their parents or their next door neighbors, it is unbelievably rude and completely unacceptable for anyone to let themselves into someone else's house without permission, without calling or without knocking, ESPECIALLY if they have been given the responsibility of having a key to the house.

If the inlaws (or anyone else for that matter) cannot see it then the only logical thing to do is to take away the key or change the locks.

The fact you can't see this shows that you have very little understanding of proper manners and boundaries.[/quote]

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