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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When I get stressed about work and not doing enough there bc I want to be home with my kids, I remind myself that it is highly unlikely that on my death bed I'll be thinking "Oh, I wish I has worked longer hours". [/quote]

Yup. The studies on this topic show that elderly men consistently wished they hadn't worked so much and had spent more time with their families (these are for people who worked back in the 50s/60s, before women worked in the same numbers they do today). I think of that a lot when trying to figure all this out. I hear people talk about not passing up the job of a lifetime; as far as I can tell, I have the kids of a lifetime, and damned if I'm going to miss them while I have the chance.[/quote]

+1.  Like OP, I was a major go-getter and golden child in my 20s.  As I moved into my 30s and had kids, I realized that I didn't love my job as much as I thought, and time for myself and with my family was a greater priority.  I continue to be a high performer and expert in my field in terms of executing the tasks of my job, but I no longer seek out more demanding opportunities and don't volunteer for all the extra things that are part of the consulting world like after-hours business development and proposal work, serving on committees, etc.

I still mentor a number of younger staff and offer them perspectives on both getting ahead and how to make peace with a "work to live" rather than "live to work" approach to life.

Don't think of this as the mommy track, OP since that really is a pejorative.  Think of it as a the track for the life you want.  It's not a step back or a step down.  It's a choice to frame your life differently.  [/quote]

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