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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here again. A PP asked if I liked my sister. My sister and I have some common interests and we can have fun together. I like her but sometimes I feel like she's being condescending. Of course, some of that could be my insecurity, too. My DH thinks it's a bit of both.

Thanks to the PP who commented about my DH and I both being in helping professions. It does feel good to have careers we don't feel ethically conflicted about! While the salaries aren't the best neither of us ever questions the value of what we do.

Thank you for all of the thoughtful replies. This has been helpful and has helped me clarify some things. I have a bad habit of worrying about how others perceive me. I should focus more on living my own life.

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OP, you are very brave to admit these insecurities.  I don't have this exact issue with my family, but I experience this with my neighbors.  We are the on the lower "achieving and educated" of our very wealthy and educated neighbors.  My husband and I are in similar "helping" "public interest" types of jobs -our kids go to public school and inexpensive activities.  I do have satisfaction in that I don't have ethical conflicts about my job and we are very present in our children's lives.  As we've spent more time with our neighbors, I've learned that even though things can look good from the outside, reality may be different (this was the case with my family when I was growing up).

No matter what your status is in life, nobody is immune from tragedy, illness, death, loss etc. Perhaps down the road, you and your sister may be in different circumstances, for better or worse.

Your situation right now is a "test" as to how comfortable you really are with yourself. I agree with the other posters that people who "look down" aren't really comfortable with themselves.  Truly secure people don't need to do that.  Yes, be busy living your own life.

At the end of the "chess game", the pawn and king go back in the same box.

Good luck.[/quote]

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