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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, the thought that goes through my mind when I hear something like this is "your poor, poor child. I'm so sorry for him/ her."[/quote]

And I wonder why you didn't try a little harder to work it out for your child's sake.[/quote]

If that's your first thought, then I'd be glad that we are not close or going to be.

I agree with one of the PPs who said that they don't know you that well, so being your support system isn't natural.  You're going to have to pull from all your inner reserves during this time.  You call them up for play dates, suggest outings -- basically what you've always done.  Acquaintances aren't going to be supportive in the way you want.  It's not an easy time, but you will get through it...and your social life will change.  It takes time, but you will find out who your true friends are, you may have to ask for support, but do that with your inner circle.  Stay occupied and busy with your child.  Check in with preschool teachers and get counseling for yourself and/or your child if you need to.  Don't let yourself be isolated.  I was one of the first in my social circle...but I certainly am not the last.  I didn't have many people to call upon, and it got lonely at times.  I learned some things and I've been there for other friends, even though they weren't there for me.  It's ok.  People do the best they can.  Don't fret over an acquaintance.

To answer your question, I feel bad for everyone involved.  But your school-mom friends may immediately associate you with some other friend who got divorced and assume you will do the same.  Or they think, drama...run the other way. [/quote]

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