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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well the daily phone calls and criticism of your financial decisions can be easily remedied by not letting her know he'll be out of town (you can tell her once he returns) and not offering up specifics on your finances. My dad, who's actually pretty hands off, was getting on my nerves with unsolicited financial advice - so I just don't give specifics anymore. You can also return one phone call for every two you get.

But otherwise, I have an aunt much like what you describe - when I go to visit, she reminds me to wash my hands, finish my food, was furious when I was packing up from a visit and didn't have room for all the stuff she wanted me to lug home. An aunt is different than a parent, but we've had to limit the kind of visits we do with her. The last time we visited, she was bullying my husband in front of our daughter and I just can't sign up to expose my child to that, even though I feel bad for my aunt who's clearly lonely. [/quote]

OP again- it's funny you say this, because I've gotten to the point where I don't share these details with her willingly!  But I'm a horrible horrible liar (she raised me with a moral compass, what can I say) and she asks a million questions, so if she asks if "John is traveling this week" I have a hard time lying. The checkins are primarily texts- it's just wierd because I lived on my own for many years and this didn't happen with nearly the frequency.

The financial criticism tends to be over big things- how can you afford to go to these out of town weddings, take overseas trip, remodel your kitchen.  Frankly in that regard she's much harsher and critical of my sister who lives closer to them because all of the new things sister buys are more apparent.[/quote]

Limit contact! How hard is that? Sheesh! :shock: [/quote]

Wow you people are harsh.  OP should be grateful she has a mom who cares- and you all are advising her to limit contact?!  I fell bad for your moms.[/quote]

People, please give me your moms. I will appreciate the fuck out of them. "oh, my mom cares for me too much? gotta cut contact!"

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