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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I've told my brother about it and he seems to think I'm making a big deal out of a little mistake, but how many times can you make the same mistake about the same person?  It's obvious she doesn't like a me and honestly the feeling is mutual.  Although, I never exclude them off of invitations.  [/b]

Should I say something to my brother or just leave it alone. It's especially frustrating because my boys love to together with their cousin and if I don't plan something, they never do.

Vent, over, I'm feeling really sad about this.  Before this b*tch came into my brother life, we had a great relationship, now, it's all down hill. :([/quote]

The simple solution is your brother communicates with you and family events and you to him.  Obviously there will be a step where he has to check with SIL since she is likely the keeper of the family schedule.  My SIL doesn't leave us off events, we just find out last minute via my BIL to my husband while she will tell her family months in advance.  My friend gave me good advice and said let the siblings drive the relationship .  If our kids will see each other the siblings have to make it priority for their kids to get together.  If we get a last minute invite, we aren't going to wrap ourselves around attending if we can't make it. You can't hold on to anger about the things you can't change, you have to focus on the things you can.  If your brother isn't willing to meet you halfway and plan things for the kids to see you and communicate event information, then you can't blame the SIL, he has to take responsibility.

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