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[quote=Anonymous]NP here and haven't read the other replies.

OP, it depends on a couple of things, I think.  One is how you are dressed.  E.g., are you dressed to in a way that makes it hard for anyone (men or women) to keep their eyes off your chest?  This is sort of 'signaling' that you are hunting. (hunting men.)  This almost makes it instinctive for wives to go into "protect" mode.

The second is your behavior.  If you exhibit "I'm on the prowl" behavior, it also causes wives to circle the wagons.

I'm a DW and have a single mom friend and her kid coming to visit us in two weeks and staying for four days.  She's attractive but her behavior and style does not make her look like she's on the hunt.  I'm good friends with a widowed mom and her kid, and she came to visit us this fall.  Same thing.

I know another mom that holy cow, even when she was married, married moms were all running the other way from.  And it wasn't like we were all in cahoots or anything, it was just every one of us, as individuals, felt like this mom was out to screw any man she could, single or married.  Even my own DH said, "I never want to be alone with her--she's scary."  And sure enough, they divorced (she was sleeping with her trainer) and shortly thereafter broke up a good friend's marriage by appearing at her friend's house to visit her friend's husband while that wife was out of town and they ended up having an affair.

But I think these things run way deep, on the instinctual level, because from an anthropological perspective, pre-industrialization it could mean the difference between your offspring living or dying.  So woman are very attuned to it.  The anthropological term is "mate guarding" and many animals do it, both male and female.[/quote]

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