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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would conclude that it wasn't the student's reach school, it was the parents' reach school.  Let the kid apply to the very good other schools he or she was interested in, and let well enough alone.

[i]I would never force my kids to go to Princeton (DH's alma mater) or Harvard (mine).  [/i]They can go somewhere THEY want to attend.[/quote]

NP here.  No offense meant to any one poster in particular here.  But I have a hard time believing that most parent (legacies also) with a child who turns out to be the class valedictorian with the 2400 SAT, and the amazing, recruitable talents, would not at least [i]want[/i] or [i]desire[/i] their child to [i]apply[/i] and keep their options open.  Remember, OP is not asking about[i] attending[/i], but simply about [i] applying [/i].  Also, 16 and 17-year old [i]young[/i] adults still need a little bit of guidance and direction when it comes to big and important life decisions.  What OP has described is essentially a completely uninformed decision.  Imagine that your spouse came home to say, "Honey, I toured the campus of this great corporation, went to an information session, and I plan to leave my current job tomorrow and move us near there."  A college tour, which includes an information session of about 1.5 hour, plus a walking tour of about 1.5 hour, is simply not enough to make a decision without something more.  Did your child study the programs and curriculum of the universities?  Did your child consider how the programs at these places will further support and develop their outside interests in music, the arts, athletics?  Did your child speak to current professors or students in their intended area of study?  I am not saying that you have to do these things, but I think that the "the class valedictorian with the 2400 SAT, and the amazing, recruitable talents" would be wrong to exclude four top "reach" schools without more information -- and on the basis of only one visit.  I would suggest that she discuss the options with her college counselors, and ask them to put her in touch with some of the high school's alums who attended her reaches and other choices as well.[/quote]

This is a valid point. Not only does OP's lack info, but OPs kid may change her mind about what she wants. DD completely changed her intended major - and with it, her college choices - between April of junior year and April of senior year. I wouldn't encourage a kid to rule out any college at this poi[/quote]

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