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[quote=Anonymous]I'm like your DH - if something still works or is fixable and the cost of fixing it is less than the cost of replacing it, then I don't see the point in buying a new one. I think it's just a lifestyle, how you were raised kind of thing. I can't imagine upgrading the couch simply because we can afford it - that would never make it in my top 5 priorities of what to do with spare money. And it makes me really uncomfortable when DH starts finding new projects or upgrades to do around the house - we don't need new stuff. We need to do the dishes, the laundry, keep what we have clean, and perhaps purge some of our belongings but new stuff? That really makes me feel anxious.

So I get where your DH is coming from and here's what works for us as a compromise. Maybe it would for you too? If DH and I both agreed that it would be nice to do a particular kind of upgrade and we agreed on a designated budget for that project, then I feel at ease as the various purchases and upgrades are made and just let DH handle it since he's more interested in it. Conversely, there are times that DH really really wants to replace or upgrade something that I just can't on board with at all - I think it's completely unnecessary. For those situations, at the start of the year we have a designate "home improvement" line in our budget that we both agree to - that's basically his (small) pot of money to spend on upgrades we don't mutually agree to through out the year. As long as he sticks to that set amount, I do my best not to stress about it and just let it be. He gets some of what he wants and I have some peace of mind knowing that it's not ruining our finances. [/quote]

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