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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the people that are posting that he is too old are disregarding the fact that he was 46 or 47 when DC1 was born.  He clearly doesn't have a problem being an older dad, so it seems like he should have other reasons for not wanting to consider it.  I would understand not wanting to start down the road in your late 40s, but once you're gone, age wouldn't stop you from considering one more if you're able.  The DH may have 50 other reasons, but[b] I don't think age is very valid in this case[/b].[/quote]

Who are you to judge whether his reason is "valid?" He doesn't want another child. This is about bringing another human being into the world and is one of those situations where a "no" trumps. There is no compromise and there is no dismissing or judging someone for their reasons for not wanting one. He doesn't need to provide a whole host of reasons. [/quote]
She is his wife, and his decision to have or not to have another child is a major factor in shaping the rest of their life. Of course she has every right to judge him, and ask for every single reason he has about it.[b]  It's not right to make a decision that affects both people unilaterally, impose it on another person, and then be a dick about it.  [/b]I mean, people do it every day, but let's not pretend it is without consequences to the relationship.[/quote]

Actually in the case where it's about whether or not to have another child, this is the one time that a no-vote trumps. There really aren't any other decisions in a family where this is the case. But with having another child, if one person doesn't want one, then it doesn't happen. I'm not saying it's easy or that the spouse who does want a child is obligated to stay or that there won't be any consequences. It's just not the same as a decision such as where to live or whether one parent will stay home or work outside the home. [/quote]

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