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[quote=Anonymous]OP I can deeply empathize with what you wrote, because I could have easily written it myself up until about six months ago.

My son is 16 years old and a junior in high school. From kindergarten up until earlier this school year he had no friends and was deeply depressed. He had suffered from severe social phobia and depression all those years. He flirted with suicide on a couple of occasions.

I was in despair myself, thinking thoughts similar to the ones you have expressed here. I worried that he might never improve his quality of life, might never get his driver's license, a job, marry, etc... never learn how to talk to girls, much less get a girlfriend or marry one day. I feared his future was getting blacker and blacker and that one day I would learn the unbearable news that he had taken his own life. It was truly an nightmarish decade.

We had tried everything, including various medications and therapies. It just seemed like we could never find answers that provided any hope or relief. I agonized about where we had gone wrong as parents, what we could possibly try that we hadn't already tried. (FWIW, our daughter fortunately has had a much easier time growing up and is now on her own, college-educated, and quite content with her life.)

Anyway, it was finally this school year that the clouds parted and the tide turned. He has made friends and gained more confidence. He has a good idea of what he wants to do with his life after he graduates high school next year.

I have read some of your other posts here about your son and it always brings tears to my eyes because I know the pain you are feeling. I don't have the crystal ball that we all wish we did, but I can offer my own story of hope if that will help. I can hardly believe it myself, that we are actually beginning to see the light at the end of that long, dark, lonely tunnel. But it's true, OP!

Please don't ever give up. Take the advice from others here about taking care of yourself (so very important), and know that sometimes just the fact that you are still hanging in there and trying is the best you can do. Even if you don't always see any results, your son will know that he has an ally in you. Try to keep the lines of communication open with him and make sure he knows that you are on his side and that you have confidence and faith in him. Even if you don't think that he is listening, he is.

Everyone has a different path in life, and no one's looks like someone else's. He will get there some day, and he will know how important you are to him and how he couldn't have gotten there without your support all along the way.[/quote]

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