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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not to justify, but possibly to illuminate:

* she is really stressed about something else entirely, or just over-tired, and this just happened to push her over the edge
* although you feel like you are doing more than 50% of the work, she might also feel like she is doing more than 50% of the work. You both might need to step back and reassess.
* she is not feeling appreciated in some other arena, and this somehow reminded her of that painful (mis?)conception

Either way, I'd say the two of you need to sit down and talk about what is going on in your relationship. Calmly. Without blaming. Without judging.

As for her paycheck... was there an agreement that your salary would cover X and her salary would cover Y? X = expenses, Y = savings and extras? Otherwise that sounds a little odd.[/quote]

I have stress all the time, and I do not curse and swear at my DW.  [b]I am probably going to die of a heart attack, since most of it I keep to myself and just stew. [/b] One day I may just snap.  They'll say he was such a nice man, once!

As to the paycheck, perhaps I created a monster.  Years ago, when she worked last, I paid for everything, including the nanny.  She banked her check.  I cannot do that anymore.  So, she needs to ante up.  If she can't do that, I want a divorce.  Then she will be forced to ante up on her own.  
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I'm not advocating that you curse and swear at your wife, but please get a handle on the bolded. It's just really not good for anyone - you obviously, but it's probably not good for your relationship, kids, everyone. It's so important not to do this!!! Look into meditation strategies, seriously. It sounds like you could use some really quality mindful time alone to get some stress out. [/quote]

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