Reply to Families and money

Forum Index » Money and Finances

Reply to "Families and money - cheapskate"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]OP here - Tell me more about the $160 - but first I'll explain why I didn't take it, and I'm open to being wrong not taking it.   I didn't take it as it was only "offered" very grudgingly after I yelled at him and called him cheap.   So 1. I didn't feel like the offer was "real" as it didn't come from the his own judgement - I had to pull it out, and 2. I felt badly about yelling at him and calling him cheap, so in a weird way I felt like the $160 was guilt payment for yelling at him and calling him cheap, which is something (obviously) we don't do in our family.   So (and I sorry to be so obtuse - please forgive given my background) maybe I was being passive aggressive?   Don't you think it's too late now to ask for the $160 and call it a day?   I've already written it off.  I'm thinking it's better to forget about it all and move on.   Is it better to ask for the $160?

Writing about it brings back memories of when I was a kid (again, likely the reason why this is so painful) of asking for an ice cream, and having him pull out his wallet and some bills, and waving them in front of me.  I would reach for them, and then he'd pull them back and put them in his pocket.  I learned quickly never to ask him for anything.  He still does this today - if we go out to dinner he waves his credit card around, and I always pull out mine and say we'll pay for our share, and he always accepts.  Or my mom pays for us all - she'll let us know that before hand though.

There's no way he would ever give my his CC info for the transaction.  That's crazy talk to someone like him.  And I doubt he would have gotten the tickets himself.  Which in hindsight would have been better (for me) than this situation.

Thanks all for your words of wisdom. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics