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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I sympathize, OP.

PPs may tell you that parents are not obligated to pay for college, but when you see your parents spending a ton of money on themselves, and not helping out their young adult children, it feels as if you are worth less than their toys, doesn't it?

This happened to my mother and her 6 siblings. They were left practically destitute (my mother for a while didn't have enough to eat), while their parents lived in luxury in Switzerland. When my grandmother finally went bankrupt through mismanaging her money and overspending, she SUED her children for support (this was in a country with laws in place for family support). Her children went above and beyond to pay for their undeserving mother, to the end of her life.

How is communication between your father and yourself?
Can you ask him what he thinks will happen if/when he runs out of money? 
What was his rationale for not paying for your college?

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Plus 1,000.  I don't understand people on this forum who think it is okay for wealthy parents not to put their kids through college unless they are the same self absorbed type that won't be doing it for their kids.  I know I'll permanently move out of the country before I'll support him in old age given the way he treated me.[/quote]

Maybe OP's father figured out early that his children were ungrateful and felt entitled?  Maybe it was his life lesson to them that you work hard for everything you get. It actually sounds like OP is worried about lack of an inheritance. Her mom can sell the toys if her father dies first and have some money. Lots of options. It seems as though they are having fun and enjoying their golden years. [/quote]

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