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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You guys are harsh...[/quote]
Totally. I don't know why the OP has to expect a bunch of assholish responses before anyone really answers her question. I mean, she's pregnant now so making snarky comments about that is irrelevant as well as deeply mean.

However, OP, I do agree with the person who said that this isn't really a money question -- it's a communications/relationship question. It may be that your husband really, really loves his job, even though it doesn't pay much. Or he may be reluctant to take on the extra work or responsibility that would come with a higher salary. Or he may feel, for some reason, unqualified or unprepared to take that next step. I don't know what the issue may be, but it sounds like you've had this conversation enough times now that maybe he's tuning you out instead of really trying to think about what's going on. Perhaps a third party might be able to bring some clarity to the situation?

At the same time, though, you need to be prepared for the idea that maybe your expectations from him around this issue are too high. I'm not saying you're wrong to want financial security. But if a higher-paying job turns your husband into a miserable wreck, well, maybe the money is not worth that. I'm just suggesting that both of you need to be open to changes, not just him.

Good luck with this. Money issues are so challenging when both partners aren't on the same page. [/quote]

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