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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd tell them that you feel excluded. They might not realize it. At least tell your parents. No parent would want their child to feel this way.[/quote]

I wouldn't be surprised if this treatment originated with the parents.  Perhaps they only want to be around their successful children. Sorry, OP.  It stinks but you are better off without all the snarky remarks and attitude you would be exposed to during the vacation. [/quote]

Op here. I talked to my dad on the phone a few days ago.

Dad: what are you doing for Easter this weekend? 
Me: uh, nothing.
Dad: why aren't you doing anything?
Me:Easter tends to be a family holiday. My family did not include me in the holiday.
Dad: we didn't exclude you.
Me: well, no one invited me. 
Dad: (silence.) well.
Me: I'm not invited, am I? No one has invited me.
Dad: (pause) well.....
Me: you know, I don't have a family of my own, so when my siblings and parents exclude me from holidays, it leaves me with no family to spend holidays with. That feels pretty lonely. I also wasn't included in the family get together last summer and thanksgiving was planned without my input.
Dad: well.
Pause.
Me: well, guess I'll go now. Have a good night.

Haven't heard from anybody.

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It sounds like you just want to be heard and acknowledged. Is that right? In that case, you've made your point and you can't control how they react.

If your objective was to be included in this event and others going forward, then I'm not sure this approach is the most effective. It kind of just makes everyone feel awkward and doesn't offer any solutions. Maybe if you had just left it at "I don't have any plans" then that would have left the door open for them to invite you, or to at least be aware that you don't have other plans, but with the way you put it - it sounds like you're mad at them and even if you were invited at this point, it would just be awkward and uncomfortable for everyone because you'd still resent not being invited from the get go. So people probably aren't going to feel at ease inviting you at this point, though hopefully they'll proactively include you in the next holiday. [/quote]

I disagree. I think that was the absolute best and mature way to handle it. Good job OP. I'm sorry that's going on. I hope they ruminate on what you stated here. [/quote]

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