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[quote=Anonymous]I'd say it all depends on whether or not her bf will have her back and how openly they can discuss the negative sides of his family. Most people will get defensive about their families, but he needs to be able to talk honestly about it with her. She needs to be a safe place for him to be honest about their less than stellar qualities. She needs to start talking about it NOW. Saying things like "I was uncomfortable when you Dad used the N-word, how did you feel about it?". Don't let him hide behind "that's just how he is". Yes, that's true, you can't change them, but she needs to know how he plans to act when their kids are there and Gpa is being a racist. If the bf and your sister can be a team and take on the challenging relative together, things can work out just fine. In fact it can make them closer. However, if this issue divides them, it's better to find that out before the wedding for sure. [/quote]
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