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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I could have said that at 28.  Then I met my husband at 29.[/quote]

Same here.  Part of it was that I never allowed myself to fall be in love.  I had a truly horrific childhood and my self protection skills were/are formidable.  My father died (best thing that ever happened to me still even after DH and kids) when I was 20 and it took me years to get to the point that I was willing to allow open myself up emotionally to a romantic interest.  Sure, I'd had sex, dated, etc. but I'd never let myself be vulnerable before I met DH at 29.  We've been together almost 20 years and I've finally healed enough that I know I could, again, open myself up to love with another man.  But, I'm happily married.  Nice to know I could if I wanted/needed to.[/quote]
This. People should try to learn more about their early childhoods, in order to better understand these issues. The impact is permanent.[/quote]

+1  I had a lot of early childhood issues that had me stuck in patterns with poor choices for partners, seeking out relationships that reminded me of my broken childhood relationships, and engaging in the same self-preservation behaviors.  I didn't break out of this for a long time, and until I got some counseling.

Also: after I got divorced (late 30s) and returned to the dating scene (for the first time in like 18 years!), I was dealing with a really different pool of women, many of whom were of the commitment shy variety, and what the first quoted poster above says is pretty much textbook for at least three of these "never fell in love" types.  And after a couple of them dumped me, I noticed, while doing the post-mortem on the relationship, that I was often just the latest in a long line of discards...discards who went on to pretty good healthy relationships.  [/quote]

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