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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You're not alone, OP.  I look at my child and it blows my mind to think of the way they treated me when I was that age.  I also am held back by what I lacked, and have no idea if it will ever get better.  I am trying really, really hard to do right by my child, and I feel good about that.  So that's something to focus on.[/quote]

OP, I'm going through the same thing right now, and as my kids get older and reach different milestones, I keep getting hit with new realizations of my parent's selfishness. Let's call a spade a spade -- mine were down right neglectful, and I bet yours were too if this is still bothering you.

I disagree with several of the other posters about you needing to grow up, move on, and that there are worse things, like vicious and destructive. The trick about being selfish/neglectful is that someone can be subtle and therefore much more destructive or destructive for much longer to you than using more obvious forms of hurt.

If your body had some weird ache, wouldn't you pay attention to it? Same goes with this - ok, OP, your mind keeps dwelling on it. Well, then dwell on it. Dwell on it night and day! In all your free time! There's probably a ton of sadness that needs to be examined, felt, and released. There isn't a shortcut here. [/quote]

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