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Thanks for the advice,  though some was hard to read. I know I sound horrible and my parents do as well. If this was another poster asking about the same issue,  I would also think 'wtf, why aren't the parents doing a anything,  etc, etc.

To answer a few questions:

-This is not a cultural or gender issue. No we are not American but the clothing issue was never a problem for anyone except my brother and only in the last months.When she dressed similarly a year ago, he never said anything. 
-I can count the number of times I remember being spanked by parents on one hand. They are not abusive with us at all or with each other, so no, this is not something that is a cycle going on in the house.

Since I last posted, minus verbal arguments, there was not much. This is how my brother is......fight one day then can be fine the next. Two days ago I had an argument with him and he repeatedly threw water at me and then started throwing the glasses as well. I called the non emergency number to ask about options other than jail because I feel he needs help and jail isn't going to help him mentally but I was a coward once again and didn't call one of the centers suggested. He once again went after my sister and we called the police but she told us to hang up because she didn't want to make a statement. Parents told him to leave but he refused. I know, so many errors on their and my parts. Yesterday,  my brother got into another altercation and is now in jail on felony charges that my dad filed. This all feels so weird to me....like a movie I'm watching because this shouldn't be happening in real life....I  am going to be honest no matter how horrible people think I am since this forum for the most part is Anonymous - I'm glad he finally is out of the house because he was making our lives so hard and stressful and painful. We should have filed charges the very first time he got physical and I truly regret that we didn't do enough to protect my sister because she or anyone else never deserves to be treated this way. She is so beautiful,  smart, strong and we should have protected her so much more. I think for my parents, they kept on wanting to believe that he would change but yesterday I know it was the breaking point and my dad was adamant about filing charges when the police asked if he was sure he wanted to.

Now, despite all this, a part of me feels bad about him in jail. I truly feel that jail is not the answer but mental help is. I am not sure if once a felony is charged, it could be reversed so he could get treatment that he needs? I know how bad that sounds after everything that happened but I truly feel years in a cell is not going to help him with what is wrong with him.

Sorry for the rambling.[/quote]

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