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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Name one person in your life who has never disappointed you in even the smallest sense...who has always given you everything you've ever asked and who has always fulfilled your every expectation of them.  
Mommy and Daddy don't count...your expectations were a lot simpler way back when.  Santa and the Tooth Fairy don't count either.
Name a boss...a friend...a co-worker...a lover...name one person who never ever let you down - never broke a date, never denied you a dollar, never went against your wishes, never hurt you, never lied to you, never was absent when you needed them...

Name one person who is truly unequivocally trustworthy based on their record of perfection and infallibility.

Take your time.[/quote]

Interesting exercise - but then what.  What do you want OP to do with that?

Maybe - think about how many people you love and trust to never intentionally hurt you, even if you may have been disappointed on occasion?  Think about how you survived all of those moments of disappointment, or even betrayal, and are stronger today as a result?  Think about the worst case scenario - your trust is deeply, intentionally betrayed by your SO?  You've been through it right?  You've survived.  You've come out of it wiser and stronger - so you would again.  Knowing you can and will survive, and that life goes on, takes a bit of the power out of the worst case scenario dread.[/quote]

PP here, I guess what I was trying to illustrate is that no one is perfect and infallible but that doesn't mean no one is trustworthy.  
The OP is disturbed and perhaps even frightened by the numerous tales of infidelity on DCUM but there are horror stories of deception and betrayal that happen in every city on every continent every single day - just turn on the news or open a paper.  Not a single second passes that someone somewhere isn't taking advantage of someone else's trust.  Everyone and anyone is capable of hurting us and disappointing us and yes, even betraying us and no one will ever live up to our expectations of them because no one lives their lives solely to satisfy us BUT YET AND STILL...
Yet and still we manage to go through our lives without having frequent panic attacks wondering whether our boss will abruptly call us into the office to can us...well most of us.
Yet and still we manage to go through our lives without having recurring nightmares about the seemingly nice people at Starbucks secretly hock-spitting in our coffee...well most of us.
Yet and still we manage to go through our lives without having repeated nervous breakdowns from the thought of a co-worker or sibling or a complete stranger who just so happens to be struggling with their own panic attacks and nightmares suddenly pulling out a gun and killing us...well most of us.

So in short - we trust people daily.  We trust people we know and love and we trust people we don't give a second thought about.  We trust and we keep on living...well most of us.  
Trusting doesn't mean we're impervious to disappointment - no indeed there will always be setbacks and sorrows in life.  But trusting does mean that at the very least we're afforded the opportunity to enjoy some semblance of peace of mind for some stretches in our life...well most of us.  Some of us are determined to be distracted and distressed by the uncertainties and anxieties of life.  For them its not a question of how do you ever fully trust, its a question of how do you ever fully live.[/quote]

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