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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Short story: I left ex-H, he did not want to break up, he fought for it and acted completely crazy for a while. We divorced. He finally calmed down about 8 months ago. Since then we have better communication (we co-parent). Definitely friendlier but have never discussed the break up, kept it strictly to co-parenting issues.

Recently, he wrote a very kind email and I responded by letting him know, in more or less words, part of me will always love him. And it's sad we did not make it.

Feeling like a total dummy because he never replied. We've had contact, very friendly and normal, about co-parenting stuff.

I can understand he wouldn't respond out of self-preservation, I know he was very hurt as of course, was I. I can also understand he may not want to open the "Relationship Talk" can of worms. Just feeling dumb about laying it out there but also think it's also good and mature to make amends, especially since we'll be in each other's lives forever.

Hoping I still get a response in some way or another. Feels like a hanging conversation.[/quote]

So you dump your husband to "find yourself" (you may as well go into a little detail about why you left, otherwise people will just assume selfish motives) and then get butthurt because he's not going to invest a lot of emotional energy/time into your relationship? [/quote]

We married in our early 20s. He spent our first several years of marriage in a serious tug of war between our family and wanting to be "young and free" with his friends. It was very painful, very rejecting, even though, I do know he loved me and the kids. By the time he had grown up and decided it was us he wanted to invest in, it was clear it would be better for me and the kids to move on. A lot of damage was done and they had done a lot of growing up without him. Our (mine and the kids) more stable emotional life and improved standard of living in the years since the divorce is a testament to the divorce being necessary and better for us.

I did not write him for attention. I wrote him because I want us to forgive each other and very very sadly I mourn love was not enough. The mistakes do not negate the love, the love could not make up for the errors.[/quote]

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