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[quote=Anonymous]Hi OP, 
  I have debated posting this as tone online can be misinterpreted and I don't want you to feel like I'm being mean or snarky.  But, I do think there is a bit of advice in here after watching my friend go through this with her bf (terminal cancer).

You say you don't want to live without him and you can't imagine moving on.  The harsh reality is that at some point, you will have to live without him.  I know you are in therapy, but addressing that may be beneficial to you.  
  You also have to keep in mind how the guilt/stress weighs on him regarding this situation.  He loves you, but he does feel like he's holding you back.  Every time you stay in with him and don't go out with friends because you don't want to leave him, he feels guilty.  You have to give him credit that he's being honest with you.  He wants you to move on while you're still young (32 is young) because he knows at some point you are going to have to move on, and he'd rather you do it now than when you are 40.  Especially since it will take a long time for you actually do move on.  
   For whatever reason, he's decided that living with his parents is the best option.  It is probably his way of giving you an out that doesn't impact him.  You may find someone else in a few years who you love and you may not.

I would look into not only groups for caretakers/loved ones of those with terminal illness, but also into support groups that deal with loss of a loved one.  I'm sure there are some catered to just those who lose a significant other.

Anyways OP, I'm so sorry you are in this situation and I wish you the best. [/quote]

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