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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]15:51 again. My husband had a history of letting his mother and sister take advantage of him and walk all over him. He was definitely on the bottom of the totem pole in his family growing up since he is such a people pleaser.

Well, I am NOT a people pleaser, and I insisted on the boundaries. Sure, there was much wringing of hands on his part for awhile, but now he is very comfortable with saying no to them. It's awesome. [/quote]

OP here.  How did you make this change? Its been years and many different therapists.  His family is truly horrible.  I know they all need therapy together, but that will never happen.  They accept zero responsibility.  Of course, they hate me because I am so different from them and was treated like a human being in my family, unlike him in his family.  They resist change on all levels, and are very military like, manipulative and sneaky - to the point of being abusive (I know not all military people  are like this, but in his family, it only exacerbated underlying issues).

I am glad to know I am not alone.

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