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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My ILs are totally unable to get anyplace ontime.  I'm not talking 5-10 minutes.  I am talking 30 minutes to even 1 hour for things ranging from dinner at our house, dinner in a restaurant or even babysitting for us.  MIL is generally clueless so always underestimates how long it takes to get herself together and get someplace.  Or she decides to walk to our house instead of drive....which obviously takes longer!!  We've cancelled dinner reservations because she has shown up 30 minutes late for babysitting.  SIL is a bit narcassistic (younger sister of DH) so she cancels all the time or will text and say she is running an hour late.  It's not like I am a stickler for being ontime but with a 3 year old and a baby, things need to happen by a certain time or else I have to deal with the meltdown.  I.e., we agree to meet at a restaurant at 6pm.  The kids and I are there at 6pm....everyone else decides to roll in at 6:30...hello???  Kids are starving by then!  Or, showing up 30-45 min late for dinner means kids are hungry, pushes back bedtime because of course they want to keep the kids up to play, etc.  Again, we can be somewhat flexible for special events, but not simply because people can't get their sh*t together to be someplace when they say they will!!

Of course, DH also exhibits the same qualities, so I know the apple didn't fall far from the tree.  I sound like a broken record nagging about being on time or even telling me that he will be late.  I don't even say anything anymore.

Now, when MIL has us over for dinner, I simply refuse to be on time on principle.  DH usually leaves from work and I leave from home.  I wait for DH to show up and then I leave the house.  Yes this is petty, but I get a little satisfaction from it.  [/quote]

Why are you waiting to order for the kids, knowing they will be late? Why invite them at all? I would order for the kids. I would wait 15 minutes then order my dinner. When we are done, I would leave. DH can stay w parents or go home. I wouldn't let them hold me hostage. [b]The kids' needs come first.[/b][/quote]

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