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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It took one REALLY bad experience for my H to finally get on board with this.

Think ILs claiming the biggest room with the king bed, extra sitting area, and private bath and leaving us (with a 2 year old) the room where the double bed touched 3 of 4 walls and the door could barely open to even get into the room, so we couldn't even make a place for our kid to sleep on the floor, let alone shove 2 adults and a squirmy 2 year old in a double bed. Add in changing plans at the last moment that ended up costing us $$$ and left us having to drag a carseat across country, and that was that.

I'd have him go with the kids alone. He'll likely never want anything to do with it again after that.[/quote]

We ended up on the floor in the living room with a 5yo, while DH's single and kid-free siblings got the bedrooms. We traveled the furthest and had the worst jet-lag as well. Never again. [/quote]

OP here.  This is us.  The spoiled SIL gets the biggest room, and the single nieces get their own rooms.  WTH??!!  I'm the bad guy for speaking up? Are you serious?  Its as if they are trying to see how much we can take - push, push, push......Actually, this is a pattern with all of DH's relationships.

Yes, I fully realize this is a DH problem.  His family gives him plenty to talk about at therapy, trust me, they should be paying for it over the years.

DH needs boundaries.  He has been abused by his family all his life, so he knows no different.  I am clearly the opposite.  As you can imagine, this does not go over well with the passive aggressive ILs who really do need a smack.

This is not only no vacation, but now I have to worry about my children.  I may have to go in order to protect them.  I just don't know what to do.

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