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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here - I didn't mean I don't want to hear about work/life problems! I meant that DH has strep and is going on and on about how "impaired " he is and the fatigue and I've offered Motrin and cold liquids and whatnot and I now want to say "it's not cancer! You're not going to die. It's inconvenient, but it's not deadly. You will be ok."[/quote]

Ok, I'm the PP and I see you did follow-up.  Yes, it sounds like he's being a little whingey.  But also: seriously, check your job at the door.  You're "right" about him needing some perspective, but he doesn't have the benefit of the same exposure/experiences you do.  I dunno, I'm one of those people who believes they don't get sick (I just block all memories of it) and when I do get sick, I want to be left alone, no sympathy, no nothing.  So maybe that helps.

On the empathy thing in general (and not directed to the OP): I think MDs have to harden up a bit - the pediatric oncology example is good but extreme.  I just think they see a very different "picture" of suffering than the rest of us do (a completely skewed sampling) which makes them safety-nazis and unempathetic.  Cut them some slack for this.  Also: Cardio-thoracic and Orthopedic are at the top of the pecking order in Residency; (family) medicine and pediatrics are much lower.  The biggest swinging dick gets to have an even more inflated sense of superiority (and assholery).  I think it's whack, but my wife has a visceral contempt for most groin-ocologists.  Of course she is mostly working with them only when she's fixing their surgical fuckups.  [/quote]

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