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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PP, thanks. I have three months of paid leave but would only take 6 weeks and save the rest for appointments. I am AA and dc is multi-racial, so I am totally cool with adopting someone who looks like me. The daycare part scares me a bit since quality care is hard to get in DC. My job sponsers a center, so once I get certified, I might talk to the director. My dc is at another Federal center so I would get sibling preference there. How much is the daycare subsidy? My center is about 1400 a month. I want to save as much as I can because I will supplement the therapy from infants and toddlers with a private therapist too. I have to check to see if my insurance covers foster kids, I have a great holistic pediatrician and I want to use her again. [/quote]

[b]You can't just "supplement" therapy at your whim. IT IS NOT YOUR CHILD. You cannot do anything without parental consent. Or, the court has to order it, which can take months.[/b] You need to go to the CFSA orientation and get real facts. [/quote]

The OP is interested in "foster to adopt."[/quote]

My point still stands.  Fostering means fostering.  Even if it's "to adopt" IT IS NOT YOUR CHILD UNTIL YOU ADOPT THEM.  Also - in DC, even if you're a pre-adoptive home, you still have low odds of actually adopting that infant that you're fostering.  So OP should think about how much FMLA leave she wants to use for a kid that might go live with grandma in 8 weeks.  My dear friends have had 7 children in their homes over the course of two years. Not one of them became available for adoption.  Now, I managed to adopt the very first child ever placed in my home as a foster kid - but that was pure luck.

Believe me, I'm still living this.  No medical procedures that aren't approved, no therapy that's not approved, no ANYTHING that's not approved!  The only way this doesn't apply is if the parents rights have already been terminated, which is hardly ever the case.  [/quote]

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