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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Summer of 2013 our basement flooded. I had saved 3 yrs worth of baby clothes of my older DD. Only the very nice stuff, and it was about 2 garbage bags full. I stored it in MIL's unfinished basement after washing and folding it. 
I had just had a newborn at the time and b/c parts of our basement were being redone didn't have storage in our smaller home to store it. Anyway I went over today and found out she had thrown out all the clothes and the toys I had been storing in her unused, unfinished basement!

I was about to cry. I couldn't understand why? I looked at her and asked her why she would do something like that (DH right next to me). She lies and says to me, you told me it was garbage. I said No I couldnt' have had, b/c I am fully capable of throwing away my own trash. [b]Then she lies and says, oh you said it was being saved for her other sons newborn and they didn't want it. [/b]I said No I wasn't. I was saving it for me! I asked her why she didn't ask me before she had made the decision to dump the stuff to a goodwill bin. She was acting like I had told her it was okay. (This show was for my DH's sake so that he could be like, oh honest mistake). Anyway, DH sided with me and said she should have asked. Along with that were about 10 baby dolls and a push walker and countless other toys. Honestly. I am livid beyond words. So then she says, what's the big deal. Baby clothes are so cheap. (she's next to never gifted our children anything). So I said, no actually they're not that cheap, you buy two things, $30 easily.

Anyway, I was polite, but firm and did not accept her excuses. I told her it was my private items and I didnt' understand why she went through them and then decided on her own to toss them. She did save 4 items. My DD's hospital blanket and three dresses she had given my DD. Nothing else. She then went on to say it was all junk. So dirty. Nobody would wear that stuff again. Completely 100% untrue. I know what I had saved and the condition it was in. I wanted to punch her. So I said it was mine and she shouldn't be throwing out that stuff. IF it was too much to manage she should've called I would've picked it up sooner.

We drove out 30 min with our children to see her. She then acted annoyed we hadn't eaten lunch at home etc. I didn't eat. Dh and kids did. I lied and said I'd eaten at home. I couldn't even look at her.

Honestly if she said, I screwed up. I'd be less upset (I'd still be upset but I would see that she realized she messed up). But she lied. She lied and made 3 excuses.
I don't feel like seeing her again. She knows I'm royally pissed. I'm sure she's gossiping about my reaction to her 3 other children. [/quote]

Are you sure she just didn't give them the clothes and toys?

I think the chance she threw the stuff out is slim but the chance she gave it away to someone else is pretty high.

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