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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I appreciate your post @ 17:01 but I think competetion can be a great tool to push children to go higher. Recognizing where the bar is (highest grades or accomplishments) lets all know that a certain level of excellence is achievable. It has worked well for me and many/most of my friends. I am saddened to hear that your DD transferred out because that is tough for any child. I truly hope that she found the right place for her when she left.

I obvioulsy don't know all of the circumstances but recognize some parents encourage their children differently than others. Who am I to criticize or critique the relationship between a parent and child? I believe children will probably have to learn to strive for excellence no matter where they are: academics, athlectics, college, clubs, sororities, life, Corporate America. Please know that does not mean I want her to be the cut throat back-biting mean girl. Also, competition does not have to mean that kids don't get along. My daugher and her best friend are ranked 1 and 2 for their grade. Most of the friends I mentioned above were the same girls that I "competed" with in class, cheerleading squad, and other leadhership positions. We are friends to this day. 25+ years later.

Mainly, I recognize my daughter is not me. Maybe "competive" is not the right word for what I want to see grow in her. Either way, I want her to achieve in life and would like a school setting that will help me get her there.

Again, thanks for your comments. Wishing your daughter the best![/quote]

I'm 17:01 and my DD was an A student at NCS and again at the school to which she transferred.  She loves learning and couldn't stand to be around girls who felt the need "to strive for excellence" against each other.  She will be successful at whatever endeavors she pursues because she is inwardly motivated.  She is also intellectually generous in that she wants everyone around her to succeed at learning.  Its more fun when you are surrounded by others who also care about ideas.

I don't mean to be harsh because you don't sound like a bad person.  But I do think you have a bad attitude toward learning and I care because it infects the atmosphere of the school.  Its why we left, and I can't emphasize enough the damage I saw -- girls with eating disorders, because body image is something to compete with as well; girls with depression and substance abuse problems because they could never be good enough; girls who were just plain mean because it was their only defense.  Its poison.  Perhaps you should send your DD to NCS -- I suspect you will feel at home.[/quote]

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