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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I think if it bothers you, you need to speak up and ask her to help you.  Personally, I would never expect my younger sister to help, and she is only 2 years younger than me.  I would never expect or want any help from anyone staying with me.  If I needed a night off from cooking or cleaning, I would order in, go out to eat, or get something simple to cook and clean up from the grocery store. 
It is not easy to stay at someone else's house, you never feel completely comfortable like you do at your own home, and it is the host's job to make the stay pleasant.   Do you expect her to come and make YOUR life easier? She is a guest, not a mother's helper.   [/quote]

But to sit there on her phone when table hasn't even been cleared, after sister cooked her a meal?
That's just poor manners. And it will reflect poorly on her as she moves forward in her life, with friends, family, partners, etc.[/quote]

This.

I mean, at the very least, you bring your dirty plate into the kitchen and throw your used napkin away. I can't imagine just removing myself from the table and leaving my mess behind. Like that nice glass of wine the sister is drinking...should she just leave the empty glass in the living room for her sister to then have to clean up behind her later??

My ILs were very much like this when they first started visiting us. When we had a kid several years later and they still expected me to be cooking and cleaning and entertaining them when I had a 4 week old attached to my boob, it finally spurred my H to tell them that we are not maids for them and leaving glasses and plates strewn all over our house or demanding I cook lunch for them is unacceptable.[/quote]

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