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It is Saturday. Yes, there have been intimidation issues in the past. He is built like a linebacker and doesn't have to do much to let you know he's in charge. He uses silence a lot and it's much more effective than you might think at unsettling people.

The children see so little of him, they never refer to him as Daddy. My children are very friendly and known throughout the urban neighborhood in which we live. Everyone knows who they are. The children would wave and welcome even people they don't know. They didn't speak, evidently, my ex-husband just handed my son his iPad and he started playing Angry Birds. He could have been anyone.

I never told him where they would be, but our schedules are pretty predictable. Saturday would mean lunch out either before or after library time. Kids thrive on stability and that's what I strive to give them.

My ex-husband believes that being their biological father gives him all rights to access. It is not out of the question that he could have walk away with our younger one without a word.

To the PP who said "poor babysitter," no kidding.

14:26, in light of his past aggressive behavior (e.g. at least one prior domestic police call; being barred from our youngest's school), this is hardly a "fuss." Belittling the fears of a woman, a mother, who has faced frightening situations in the past is incredibly unkind. I think you're blessed not to have a clue what it must feel like.

I'm scared to call the police because they'll ask if he has a weapon, when he IS the weapon. I'm scared because of the retribution and feigned innocence.

If "gaslighting" isn't the right word, "crazy-making" sure is.

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