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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Anonymous wrote:
Sorry, but an old person's funeral isn't about you, your comfort, and your convenience. There is nothing about this situation that is meant to be pleasant or fun.

Old people have few friends left to mourn them. This is a "suck it up" experience. You need to go. There is no one there for whom this will be convenient or pleasant. Pay your dues.

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Bullshit.  You don't have to attend a funeral to mourn a person.  Funerals are for the living.  They can chose to celebrate the life of the deceased, they can mourn their loss or they can do both.  It's not about the dead person.  It's about how the people who knew that person feel.[/quote]

That's a lovely airy-fairy notion, but you try being the minister/rabbi/officiant at the funeral of an eighty year old and looking out at two or three people attending the funeral.  Yeah.  I'm sure it makes the family feel great to know that everyone is off "celebrating" the life of the deceased at the mall or some such.

You sound like you are about 19 years old.  We all have social obligations.  We fulfill them. That's life.[/quote]

Oh, so it's about the minister/rabbi/officiant being uncomfortable because there are so few people there.  And if there are a lot of people at the funeral the family won't feel so bad?  I've lost my father, two brothers, my step-father and my in-laws (among others) and I don't remember how many people were at the funerals.  I do remember having a great time at their celebrations of life.  Guess we have a different way of grieving.  Doesn't mean it isn't valid.  Oh, and I lost my paternal grandparents.  I was overseas when my grandfather died and here in DC when my grandmother died.  I didn't attend either funeral.  My parents didn't see the point.  When I next came home, we all got together to talk and remember them.  My maternal grandmother is over 100.  My sister and I don't plan to attend her funeral either.  Instead, we celebrate her birthday.  Now, I have gone to funerals of other people when circumstances called for it.  But, in OP's case, there's no need for her to go.  BTW - I'd love to be 19 again!  [/quote]

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