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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Reality is you may be better off staying. Abusers who seek custody in Family Court have 70% chance of getting it. In cases where kids have disclosed sexual abuse or physical abuse, even with evidence, abuser given custody, even sole custody, up to 90% of the time. Even if never all that interested before, likely to go for custody to avoid child support. In today's Family Court it is the mom without so much as a traffic ticket who may end up with PAID supervised visitation. Abusive exes are likely to try to continue control through kids, read about DV by Proxy. Asking ex to leave was biggest mistake I made, after not cancelling the wedding. We will not stop paying for the rage that was triggered until youngest is 18 I fear. First they get the mom to 50-50, then 2 weekends a month, then cut off. Do some reading on Barry Goldstein' s website or DV Leap or The Battered Mother's Custody Conference site. Also read Phyllis Chessler' s updated Mother's on Trial. Make a decision based on reality, not myths. You could well lose contact with your kids over time, abusers are given tremendous control to ruin the rest of your life. Family Court will not protect you or the kids. Your future could make your current life look like The Waltons. The ex of a friend who was abusive has remarried. He flipped her having primary custody to 2 weekends per month. She moved out of state. If she dates he has a PI stalk her and harrass the men. With federal funding for dads who go for custody there is no brake on how crazy they get. If you leave or ask him to do so, there is a real chance that in a few years you will end up with no or little contact with your kids, that is the reality, happens to tens of thousands of moms a year.

signed-sure wish I had known and hand' t drunk the koolaide out of ignorance [/quote]

This is crazy talk.

My ex was convicted of DV. I had so much evidence against him regarding alienation, not wanting custody, etc that there is never the chance of the above happening.

I'm asking the OP detailed questions regarding her situation in hopes of giving her real advice. You must collect a lot of evidence and be prepared to fight in court.[/quote]

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