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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote] Before she had her own kid he wasn't a great aunt and has only carried DC twice.[/quote]

I have to roll my eyes at this.  You actually counted the times she carried your DS?  It makes me think that you're overly critical and overly sensitive - perceiving things that aren't really there (expecting your DH to spend alone time with her 15 mo old) and ignoring what is (she's just not that into kids who aren't hers).  Clearly, your SIL isn't the kid person you and your DH are.  Why that would make you change how you interact with her kid (ie change who you are), I have no idea.  And, what kind of toys does a 15 month old have that a 4 year old would want to play with?  There's no reason for a 4 year old needs to play in a baby's room.  She probably didn't want him wrecking it. I don't blame her.

If you and your DH feel compelled to say something to her, it should be him not you.

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Op here. I am not overly critical. I remember the day we came home from hospital and she carried him and the next weekend. She came over and carried him. That was it. It's not difficult to not notice. I know for sure she wants DH to spend time with him because she told DH to take her son in the next room to spend time wih him so they can bond. Once when DH took her son in the room to get toys she closed the door so they could be alone. Dc came in lookkng for dh and she said he was busy. Another time DH was carrying her son and I walked by him
And kisses him on the cheek and just started to talk with him she asked me to please let her son have his alone time with DH. It didn't bother me at all bc I get that that's what she wants for her child but then I feel sorry for our son. There was a time that dc was sitting on the sofa with DH and she put her baby on too of him. Again this doesn't bother me bc I love her child but I just wish he would be a better aunt.

I get what everyone is saying though. She is who she is and don't expect much. [/quote]

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