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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How hard is it to put a pic in a text or email and hit send? Or have a 2 minute convo about the dr appointments? I call my mother AND mother in law after my baby's appointments and give them the highlights, no big deal. The vacation stuff is more annoying but at least you can do the little stuff. [/quote]

NP. How hard is it?  Very hard when it's manipulative and suffocating.  You either didn't read all of OPs posts or you don't get it:  this isn't about regular "excited grandma enthusiasm", this is grandma having issues and needing an exhausting level of validation and throwing guilt trips if a busy new mom doesn't send pictures every.single.day.  OP does need to set firm and strict boundaries and tell her mom she loves her and wants her to be close to her grandson, but she has to stop with the extreme expectations about contact and the guilt trips.

And one more thing PP, we all need to understand that different levels of contact are manageable for different parents.  The contact you have with your child's grandmas?  That would drive me nuts.  No one but the other parent of he child needs updates after every doc appt.  and I adore my mom and MIL but no, not posting pics every day of my kids.  I find it annoying when others do it and I don't do it myself.  But that's just me... I would not judges other mom (like you) who's comfy with it because hey, whatever works for you.  But you sound juggle mental that OP can't figure out a way to meet her moms demands because they sound reasonable to you.  Many of us got tired just reading OPs post and would never do all that, so to each their own.[/quote]

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