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[quote=Anonymous]My ILs do this and it's beyond insulting IMO. My dad also gives financial advice that can come off as condesending but he does it when he & I are alone so he's not undermining me in front of DH or the kids; that I can handle - I either engage him on the issue if I want advice or just cut it off with "we're actually doing really well, you don't have to worry."

For my MIL, I have had to pull her aside and talk to her. I told her "I understand as a mother, you'll always be watching out for DH and that's wonderful. He's your baby and always will be but it's a bit tricky to treat him like an actual baby in front of his kids; it's confusing for them to see their father treated as if he can't manage something as simple as combing his own hair - what are they supposed to think when he combs their hair in the morning? I don't want them to start wondering if their father is indeed capable of caring for himself or his family. I know you don't mean to question his capacity in front of them, but if it's possible, do you think you could hold off on those kinds of comments until you & DH have a moment alone? Perhaps you'll still want to bring it up, perhaps he will have already done what you were worried he'd forget, but either way, I think it would be best if that kind of commentary could just be put on hold when the kids are around." Then it's up to DH how to handle when it's just him & MIL. [/quote]

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