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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi OP. I am a elementary school principal and recently worked with a family whose child transitioned from being a boy to a girl. (The child transitioned in clothing only as surgery or drugs for a child are totally inappropriate.) I got a great education about gender dysphoria. All children are on a spectrum in terms of their gender identity. Some children are born a girl and are very comfortable with traditional "girl" identified things. I have an 8 year old daughter that loves to wear her brother's clothes and mostly hangs out with boys. She does not say that she wants to be a boy. The concern for gender dysphoria comes when your child's happiness is centered around this identity. Children will do anything to become the other gender. [b]They truly believe that they were assigned the wrong gender at birth, ie they have a penis and know that boys have a penis, but in their heart of hearts, they feel they were meant to be a girl (or vice versa for a girl born with a vagina but believing she really is a boy.)[/b]
Please talk with your pediatrician and look into the resources PP provided above from Children's Hospital. I do not know whether your child has this. What  I do know is that there are many resources and many supportive people out there.

The child at my school transitioned between second and third grade and just before they moved to our school. Only staff members that directly work with the student know. The child is now in 6th grade and has been/is a happy, bright student. I am in awe by the courage displayed by the parents, the siblings and of course, by this child.

(And for those that think OP being a single mom is the issue, this family has 2 straight parents with one being in military and their other children do not have gender dysphoria. They are as typical and "normal" as they come.)

Good luck to you OP. You seem like a loving parent who just wants her child to be healthy and happy. [/quote]

PP, thank you for this thoughtful post, but in all honestly, as a parent, I find your words and thinking extremely disturbing. It is lunacy for adults to encourage a 7 year old who "feels in his heart of hearts" (what does that even mean??) that s/he was "meant to be" the other gender. They were meant to be exactly what they are.[/quote]

I didn't mean to disturb anyone. Actually, you're incorrect with regards to your last sentence. Gender dysphoria is a very real condition, and children really do experience it. Children with gender dysphoria do not identify with the gender they were assigned at birth. "Feels in his heart of hearts" is phrase to describe feelings so strong that you would hurt yourself to become the opposite gender. It's not a passing phase or experimenting.  I have listened to a mother talk about her 6 year old who was born a boy. He attempted to cut his penis because he did not want to be a boy; he felt he should have been born a girl.

It is not treated by telling the child to "get over it."

I invite you to read about it. 
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_identity_disorder
http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/Gender-dysphoria/Pages/Introduction.aspx
http://www.webmd.com/sex/gender-identity-disorder
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