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[quote=Anonymous]I SAH for 5 years and it was so great to be at home with my kiddo. My DH was very supportive bec he did not want our son to go to daycare.  Now, he is in school all day and honestly I started to feel like such dead-weight.   While my DH earns enough for me never to work again, I just didn't feel okay just going to the gym and shopping all day.  I am an attorney so I decided to go back to work.

I am lucky I found something quickly and with limited hours (I recognize not all SAHMs can do this--I had a very lucrative and succesful career before taking 5yrs off).   I am happy to be bacl at work -- doing work that contributes to society.  Yes, that means my son goes to after care 2hrs after school -- but he is in language immersion and sports during that time, sonit really is not bad.  I get to be a productive member of society again, save for my own retirement, yadda, yadda.

My husband just shared with me that he is THRILLED I returned to work.  He *never* gave me any indication that he wanted me to go back to work.  I personally felt unfulfilled to stay at home any more (one can only go to thw gym and mert friends for lunch and get manis and pedis for so much before it gets really old).  I am not a troll -- I fully recognize my SAHM experience is this way bec of our relative wealth and only having one kid.

So that was my DH's perspective. He says he rests easier knowing I can carry our household as well -- esp excellent health insurance for all.   So he is happy and much more at ease.

We'll see what life holds for us. For now, the newness of being back at work is fun for me.

As a side note, I currently have 4 friends goingg through pretty brutal divorces (aren't they all?).  The SAHM are in the worst positions by far.  :(  Two of them were blindsided by affairs -- so sad for them.  I cannot lie -- their situatipns have me the extra kick in the pants to make sure I could still stand on my own two feet.  [/quote]

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