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[quote=Anonymous]Gosh OP I wish I could talk to you. I am going through the same thing. My mother is swirling in mental sickness. I realize this has been going on my whole life. My dad was a passive enabler and I realize this too as when he finally couldn't take my mom, he moved on to another mental case. With my mom, I have tried and tried to get her help and she refuses. She is just sane enough to not be legally insane where I could force things. I also talked with a therapist who advised me to move on from my family. I was angry at him at first thinking he was cold but now I realize he was correct. You cannot change people, they need to change (if my mom came to me tomorrow and hit rock bottom, I would help her in a second). Ditto my dad. I have a happy wonderful family and have made wonderful friends in the DC area. My family and hs friends live far away. The fall out has been awful. I can't tell you how many mean calls I have received or calls from family complaining about my mom's behavior and asking me to fix this. They get very angry when I say I am not calling her to report that xx person saw her doing xxx. I can't and have noticed I have moved away from people who just won't let this be. It's hard, not going to lie because it is. I am strong though because my children have never seen a troubled family. We don't have screaming matches at my house where terrible things are said. No flying glasses etc. We really are happy and my inlaws are lovely and non judgmental. I have never ever heard them say a bad word about my family. Parents haven't tried to see my kids in years. I noticed they never asked so I didn't offer. I think you need to do what is best in your heart for your children. You have the opportunity to stop this cycle. It's hard but sometimes necessary.[/quote]

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