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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] i was that kid growing up. i put up with being called lazy, slow-poke, air-headed etc. -- by the people who loved me. Others were less understanding.

As i grew up i overcompensated and made "good" in life, with grad school and a good career. But when my kid was showing high anxiety at school and could not tell us anything about the day, we had her evaluated, expecting much worse than ADHD. My own diagnostic came only after hers, as  learned more about it.

If your son is having a hard time, he needs help. That comes as accommodations, as skill building and possibly as medicine. Ideally, the latter is a facilitator while the skills are built, rather than a long-term solution. The idea here is that he deserve the support to reach his potential. If he needed eyeglasses, you'd give those to him, right?[/quote]

This is SO well said!

OP - the point is you (and probably others around him) are getting frustrated with him. Over time that will eat at his own self-confidence and affect the way he functions in life. NO tot mention that kids who are not helped with their processing earlier in life and then get to the rigors of high school may start to self-medicate (i.e. drugs and alcohol) to simply get away from the bad feelings - ask any reputable pediatrician and/or psychiatrist. Get a neuropsyh evaluation - if cost is a factor then talk with your county since it is often offered free or at a reduced cost if done through the county's school system. My son was diagnosed with ADHD in 4th grade. He was also diagnosed with an "output disorder" - simply said, he processes things slowly. There isn't much that can be done for the latter, but we were able to get him accommodations in school (longer time for tests and the teachers understood and helped him in other ways). We changed some things at home (place where homework is done, set-up for the computer, etc.), worked hard on coming up with systems for him and our whole family. We also started him on medication. He's now in middle school and doing brilliantly! Our goal is to wean him from the medication over the next few years and have already lowered the dose. He is learning the tools necessary to get the work done.

The bottom line is that if you are writing on an anonymous board about your frustrations with your child then things have gotten bad. Don't make them worse by ignoring it and hoping it all gets better with time. If a visit to the doctor doesn't lead to any diagnosis then clearly your son simply needs more time and structure then is being provided for him.

Also, I can't believe the teachers in your school are not giving you some concrete ideas of what to do to help. Nor can I believe that they haven't suggested getting him tested…are you concerned with that because I would be…?[/quote]

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