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[quote=Anonymous]OP and people like OP -- when your child is in 5th grade, you can control her. But there does reach a point where she will take the reigns. If grades are in response to your yelling and manipulation ("I am disappointed in you") and not because of something within her, she will fight back one day. And when she does, she'll just stop trying. I've seen it over and over again. OP, you may need to work out for yourself that your DD is not you, she has her own life and it isn't a reflection of you. All that yelling and manipulation may have already poisoned the well. My DD got OK grades in elementary. I always praised effort. When she got an A I said "you worked really hard for that." When she put time into a project, I praised her for that regardless of the grade. I never, ever told her "you are smart," or "you got As because you are so smart." By high school she was getting straight As. And I had nothing to do with that., it was all her.[/quote]
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