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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We solve this problem by not having our parents babysit when they visit.  We spend time together as a family, make and share meals, grandparents play with grandparents while we do whatever we want around the house or chat together, and when grandparents need a break we provide it rather than just turn on the TV.  Yes, there are treats and exceptions and fun, but there's not this sense that we're trading free labor for some complete change in the way we function as a family.[/quote]

And we on the other hand feel that kids building a relationship with grandparents is very important, as is time for us as a couple. The kids do not in any way build a separate relationship when it is all mediated through the parents. For us our marriage and our kids having their own relationship with family other than their parents is more important that a piece of chocolate, going to bed 30 minutes late or watching a TV show.

Everyone prioritizes things differently. OP you have to decide what is more important to you. Your child's relationship with grandma and your marriage or 1/2 hour of Tv and extra chicken nuggets. [/quote]

I agree with this...very well said.[/quote]

+1. Agree completely. At family gatherings, my SIL will not leave her kids sides because she's afraid that someone will turn on the tv or give them sweets, or some other thing she doesn't approve of. I can't speak for other family members, but I definitely feel like I get to know my other nieces and nephews better because I can have a conversation with them that isn't mediated through their parent.[/quote]

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