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[quote=Anonymous]OP - for most of my 20s I was making 2-4 times what my friends were making and had a job that came with frequent traveller status, miles, hotel points.

I love to pick up dinner or a bar tab or take people on a trip where I pay for the plane tix and hotel. It is not pity and I am not trying to make people feel bad or guilty or like they owe me anything. I just genuinely liked spending time with those people, had more money and perks than I knew what to do with, and love sharing with the people I love. It brings me joy to take someone to a restaurant or a place they could not go otherwise - because I get to share that experience and memory with them.

Sometimes in life the friends who have money don't have time and the friends with time don't have money. By paying the way of my friends who have time, I get to experience things I would not experience alone.

Sometimes charity is selfish like that. Perhaps your inlaws are not pitying you, but selfishly just like spending time with you.

When someone gives you a gift (that they can afford to give) freely and without expectations or strings, you should accept it graciously. If you still feel guilty, pay it forward when you can. [/quote]

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