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[quote=Anonymous]I met my wife online (on match) and so did my sibling.  I also met several other good LTRs there.  I would recommend:

Decent, but brief profile - you don't want to write a book because it won't get read and these things aren't all that effective at revealing who you are even if read.  Just enough to know if there are some overlapping interests and to be clear about what you are looking for (casual date, sex, serious relationship, marriage, etc.).  Just enough for someone to crudely filter.

RECENT ACCURATE PICTURES (this applies for everyone).  I don't care what women say, pictures make a difference for them too - it's not just men judging quickly and "superficially" based on looks.  I posted a shirtless shot (I am not "hot" w/ a six-pack) and it stunned me how it bumped my "wink" and response rate from women.  Basic physical attraction is fundamental.  Bait-and-Switch doesn't gain you anything - they won't "try you out and discover your wonderful personality" - they'll just be pissed you misled them by posting a five or six year old picture.

Do not waste time reading profiles at length or writing long letters in email - you might get all excited and hooked on someone with whom you have ZERO chemistry - something you discover the first time you are in their presence for more than five minutes.  Just exchange enough to know you want to:

Meet them quickly for a very low pressure face-to-face - this filters flakes because flakes won't ever get around to it.  You get to discover if there is any real attraction.  You do low pressure/quick (coffee, not dinner, not a movie) so that nobody has to have their friend call them on the phone to 'rescue' them.  So much more gets communicated in body language than we realize and there is just no substitute for a face-to-face meeting.

If you aren't interested in someone just tell them nicely and unequivocally.  I have to agree with the last poster - men get shot down a lot, so if someone wrote you more than a one-liner or met you for coffee, don't fade, just say "no thank you".[/quote]

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