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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a woman  and here is my hypothesis - see if you agree.

If a man winks at a woman, that is more likely to be a bad tactic because she will think he is lazy, not that interested. A woman winking at a man might be a more worthwhile tactic if it makes him take a look at her profile.[/quote]

I am a man, and I agree with this conclusion if not the reasoning (lazy? silly).  I haven't been on match in a few years, but I met several women with whom I got into serious LTRs, including the last one - my now wife!

The cultural norm right now - right or wrong, I'm not arguing it - is that men are the pursuers and women the pursued, by default.  That means a wink from a woman is a strong signal (see the woman who winked and got a three page letter in reply) while  a wink from a man is a weak signal, doubly so because it suggests timidity (and lack of self confidence).  I had an almost two year relationship with a woman who I wouldn't have even emailed or noticed (distance) because she winked and took some initiative.  I don't think there's anything wrong with women being the person to show interest and "speaking up" - a wink is speaking up for a woman, but not a man.  [/quote]

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