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[quote=Anonymous]This doesn't exactly address your issue, but fyi I'm Catholic and my DH is Episcopalian and the E service is very very similar to Catholic.  And it's "Catholic-light" in that they are accepting of gay relationships and women priests and married priests. (Catholic dogma is accepting of being gay, not acting on it, however; most Catholics I know are accepting of gay relationships)

That being said, the E services I've attended are longer and a bit dry.  Also the kids are put in Sunday school, which makes it easy to hear the service, but separates the family.

Now to your point--I would have an issue that he wants to do the 11am mass.  This really cuts into the day.

I think there are a number of issues that are all bundled into this and I'm not sure which is the most irritating for you.  I always think it's good to start negotiations with the easiest issue first, so you both feel like you are making progress.  I think the mass time is the easiest because it's not involving philosophy, just scheduling.  I bet he likes a particular priest's mass.  You can find out when that priest is speaking by checking the mass schedule.  Perhaps that priest also does a Saturday 5pm mass.  Or the 8am Sunday mass.  Or the 5pm Sunday mass.

Or maybe he can commit to going every other weekend, so you still can feel like you get one day as an uninterrupted Sunday.  Or he goes every week but alternates Saturday night and Sunday morning.

I'm not sure about the RCIA idea.  We go to Catholic mass and the RCIA classes were pitched as not only for those who wanted to convert, but also for those who were married to a Catholic and wanted to understand the religion.  So my DH went to the first class in September and came back saying it was really for those committed to convert by Easter.

I am positive that the priest, if he knew it was causing such marital strife, would want your DH to address this issue.  Maybe you can go with your DH and talk to the priest.  OP, if you get the priest on your side, it's going to be hard for your DH to say, insist on the 11am mass.[/quote]

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