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[quote=Anonymous]I'm not particularly religious nor is DH but during pre-marital counseling I asked the question what if one day I want to head back to church or expose the children to religion.  With my parents my mom returned to faith after her father passed away and I did feel it caused a rift in the family between us and likely contributed to the issues with my dad.  For me though I felt she wanted to convert everyone so every conversation seemed to circle back to Jesus and she wanted us kids to go to church too. So anyway, my DH pointed to married relatives where one spouse was more into going to religious services than the other, but the husband would go in support of his wife.  for me it was nice to know I wasn't  giving up any future claim to returning to religion by marrying DH.

First, is he doing something he swore he would never do by returnung to church and if so have you talked about why?  Or was that always out there, you knew he was raised Catholic, but never discussed pre-marriage as a possibility?  Are you angry because you married someone raised in the Catholic faith that is retuning to that faith and you hate the religion?  If that is the source if anger and you are basically ultimatum, either church or me, I'm thinking counseling, not in that he has done anything wrong, but if you can't figure out how to adjust to this new reality you may be headed for divorce.

If your anger is the change in the routine, a Sunday family time etc, easy answers for that.  You can have him bring the kids, you can go also in a show of support, Catholic Church has lots of mass options so maybe you can agree on a different time for him to go.  Since you said DH is not pushing religion on you and this isn't some strange leap like he joined a totally different religion from his upbringing, it's more about your reaction than his actions.  Figure out the real reason you are upset, give yourself time to be calm, and then address it.[/quote]

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