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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.

Thanks for the responses.  I know what was purchased.  I can see everything online.  To preference this with some more information, I deposit $12,000 into our joint account every month.  Then I move a portion of that into a separate savings account.  But, since it was near the holidays I decided not to move any into savings for December.

Yes, we went through $15,000 in 30 days.  Just to explain a few of the items:

1. Mortgage was $3500
2. One car payment of $350 (other car is paid off)
3. Insurance $1000
4. Food was probably $500-600
5. Bills, etc.

Now, the rest was spent on...shopping.  Yup.  I did a quick scan of the statement and I calculated she spent over $2000 from two online stores - Zulilly and Amazon.  And, that was just those two stores.

I understand it's Christmas and it's the holidays and there are sales all over the place.  But, damn...what upsets me is that she doesn't even seem shocked or stressed by it.  We are very well off as is my immediate family.  But, we never act as if the money we make grows on trees.  My parents worked, literally, 60-70 hours a week when I was a child.  I just don't get it...how she can be so obtuse about having $15,000 one month and the very next month it being - gone.[/quote]

OP, you should be going over the purchases with your wife to see how frivolous they truly are.  Was she responsible for purchasing all the gifts for family, friends, and other giftees?  I also do a lot of shopping on Amazon for household items like toiletries, food, cleaning supplies, etc, because the prices are competitive and I get free shipping. What is your HHI?  That would be a good indicator of whether she is indeed "obtuse" or just spending in line with others at her socio-economic level.  I pay the bills in my household and there was a lot in our account at the beginning of last month and close to the minimum balance left at the end because we had property taxes, doctor bills, tuition, auto insurance, charitable donations, together with holiday purchases.  My husband asked me the same question and i was able to explain the difference. Your wife should be able to, also. If she cannot, you need to be more involved. [/quote]

+1.  Thread over.[/quote]

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