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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My sister and I live an hour apart. She is married with a kid, I'm single..

I work 60 hours a week but as the single sister I am expected to pick up her child care needs..

She is in the hospital due to a minor issue, non life threatening...

I have had her kid for one day while dad is at work - I have plans late tonight(expensive concert tickets)  but they (and our parents who are hours away)expect me.. Obviously (per usual) I'll cancel my life to accodate hers..
But am I wrong for suggesting they look for a dependable babysitter they can also call that way I'm no forced to give me huge chunks of my time?[/quote]

[b]I think hospitalization (even non life threatening) qualifies as an emergency. [/b] Why does her DH have to go to work?  I flew up to CT when my sister was hospitalized and her DH also took off work.  We made sure someone was at the hospital at all times and the two young boys were covered.  We used neighbors and other family to fill in the gaps.  While I was in CT, DH took half days to cover our kids.  It was one week.  Emergencies are emergencies.

Now, if they are expecting you to drop your life for theirs all the time, that is a different story.  After this is over, sit them down and tell them what you are willing and able to do.  Then stick to it, if they test you. Maybe it is once a month babysitting so they can have a date night.  Maybe it isn't anything.  But, YOU get to decide what YOU are willing to do, otherwise you are a doormat.

'I am sorry but I cannot do that as I have another commitment'  You don't have to say what that commitment is.

Good luck![/quote]

+1 You don't have to cancel your concert, get a babysitter. But come on, if it's serious enough to require hospitalization, then it's serious. Your focusing on the "non-life threatening" part makes you look petty and heartless.[/quote]

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